you’ve got it. and you know it.
Your Essence. Your Spirit. Your Gifts. Your Style. Your Beauty. Your Expertise. The magical, magnetic parts of you that draw in people, opportunities, animals, birdies, babies (lol). Whatever it is, BeLoved, you’ve got it. And there are those who’ve been inspired… and those who’ve felt threatened. They see your fire and want to extinguish it.
You don't need to be more relatable. Be more choosey with who you are in relation with. Shrinking for insecure people will not make them less insecure. Nor, will it make you more safe in the world, if you don’t know how to honor what you posses, and create a new relationship with the wolrd that involves boundaries. No amount of altering yourself will change those around you, if you carry the same programming that makes you settle in the first place. if you settle here, you’ll settle there. There is an entire reality where you are honored, Loved, supported and celebrated, without needing to shrink, compromise or hold anyone’s hand. When you’re afraid of having, your trap yourself in environments and situations, even relationships that can only hold you at your smallest. The thing is, you’re not small. And you’re trying to fit a giant in a shoe box. It won’t work. It hasn’t worked. Which means no matter how hard you try to make it work, the only outcome is you settling. The people around you being intimated. And you trapping yourself in a loop of dissatisfaction, low compensation, and unfulfilling relationships.
They tell you that light attracts light. actually, light attracts everything. Especially in the darkness. And because of this, you’ve learned to hide. To put out your own fire. While everyone else was begging for validation, you were reveling in your own. Expecting the love you felt inside – and shared – to be reflected back to you. But you learned not everyone in the collective has an internal world like yours. And when they couldn’t find it, they tried to steal it. you didn’t need anyone’s permission to love yourself – but somehow, they convinced you you did. you learned to fear your power. You’ve been conditioned to believe it has to be harder for you, just because it’s harder for everyone else. You’ve been tuned into the wrong frequency of Advice. This is not the space for those who are tying to overcome chronic insecure, or looking to be chosen, picked, or Validated, there’s plenty out there tailored for that.
This is for you. The person who has to learn how to protect, honor and fully possess what they have, without remorse. Or being emotionally swayed to self-sabotage or self-efface under the guise of being more “relatable” and accessible. You worry about your integrity and empathy in a Wounded Collective, where there is so much pain, and injustice and insecurity. You know first hand what it’s like to be hurt and isolated, but carrying the wounds of others does not Empower them. And hiding is not in service to you or the people who are for you. There are people who need you to shine.
And this can be hard to do when your brain has learned to link Visibility to pain.
You began to self-erode so others wouldn’t feel outshined. You lost your voice because you were “too much.” You believed distorted versions of your identity. You believed that you don’t deserve your gifts, praise, or credit. OCD sufferers are tricked into thinking that giving yourself credit meant shaming others. You’ve been afraid to admit your worth, enjoy who you are, and own what you possess – all under the guise of being humble. But it’s still in you.
When I was younger, I thought I belonged to the underdogs because I knew what it felt like to be ostracized, different, and never quite the right fit.
But even then, I liked myself. I carried a presence that drew attention wherever I went. And ironically, that meant the underdogs didn’t accept me either.
I spent years making myself smaller, more “digestible,” for people with rejection sensitivity. I was conditioned to believe that if I wasn’t endlessly loyal to those desperate to be chosen, I was a bad person. Deserving of the projections, hostility, and resentment aimed my way. I thought it was my responsibility to soothe the emotions of anyone who couldn’t self-regulate in my presence.
Others decided I didn’t “know my place.” They felt threatened when I refused the limitations they tried to assign me, when I broke their little unspoken rules. They wanted to humble me, but the truth was: the reason they continued to feel confused, entitled, and delusional about my place was because I wasn’t fully claiming it.
For too long, I let people define me with their projections while I reacted and internalized. But once I started defining myself — establishing my own identity — I changed my entire relationship with the world. With others. And with money.
Now, people either reckon with me or move out of my way. Because I’m not toning down.
Through Emotional Sovereignty, I refuse to be swayed, manipulated, or coerced into carrying other people’s insecurities or validating their false narratives. I made myself my own priority. I honor all of who I am — my blessings and my power — without apology and without shrinking.
The Pedestal isn’t about demanding praise or validation from others.
It’s about owning your own crown. Your own throne. And staying put.
In your Honor.